Monthly Archives: February 2009

Engagement Party Question

1-25-2009-heart_engagement_j0173999Question about engagement party etiquette. “We were just invited to an engagement party, and I’m completely unfamiliar with the concept. What is proper etiquette for an engagement party? Is it simply an opportunity to meet the bride and to congratulate the groom who’s been off at school for many years and just graduated from med school and lives far, far away? Simply a time to socialize with all the family and friends back in town? I’m anxious about whether a gift is proper. I hate to appear at a party empty-handed. Thanks!” Mindy Continue reading

Wakes and Post-funeral meals

Candle with FlamesQuestions: Hi, I came looking for anything you may have written on funeral etiquette, and there it was right at the top! Thanks so much! Do you have any thoughts on the post-funeral meal or wake? Where it should be, who is invited, what kind of food should be served? I would appreciate any more info you have.

Thanks again, Nancy

Answer:  Nice to hear from you. Thank you, Nancy, for your questions about wakes and post-funeral meals. In these instances especially many people are relieved and encouraged when they learn that etiquette politely bows to various customs and convenience.  Some general orderly guidelines, however, do exist.  Let’s look at  “wake” first. It means different things to different people. Continue reading