Establishing Protocol in Homes

Lighten the Load: Mannerly Songs for the Children in your Life

music_notes_j0438700Looking for fun and effective ways, with sparkle, to teach your little ones about manners? Don’t forget to sing together. The right kind of music lifts the soul and fills the heart with gladness. Good stuff for all of us!

While many realize this, I see some very tired adults lately, struggling valiantly to educate their children and I don’t want manners training to be rejected because the instructional load seems too heavy. It shouldn’t be burdensome, but joyful. So here’s some encouragment for you, and its bound to ease the load while pointing  your kids in the right directions. Continue reading

What You See is What You Get … Sorta

11-01-2009-j0440987_blue_people_sihlouettesToday was a beautiful fall day with some rare quiet time at my house. Such a treat with an extra hour or so to go through a box of mail, papers, and magazines that have set too long and are begging to be sorted. They’re full of good articles that I wanted to re-read.

One of the brochures and an article prompted me to share a couple things I came across. A professional mailer (from a well-know institution) featured four of their 30-ish year old office employees on its cover. They were asking for our support and business …one woman, two guys, and a fourth person of uncertain gender identity –whose non-descipt appearance said “missing person”.

All wore unflattering clothes– mostly poor fitting jeans, sloppy shirts, dirty shoes, unkempt hair, and, well you get the idea. I asked myself, “Is what you see, what you get?”.  Continue reading

What is a Gentleman?

10-27-2009-knight_chess_piece_j0177919We see Christianity’s timeless, powerful and wise influence upon the world of manners from one of my older etiquette book’s first chapter:
“What is a gentleman? The question is an old one. It cannot be ancestry, for often the son of the most noble and honored parentage is merely a coarse compound of clay and money…It cannot be dress–for surely Beau Brummell  (and today we could include famous well dressed entertainment and political personalities) was not what the world loves to call a gentleman, despite his stiffly starched cravats and brightly polished boots. It cannot be money, for then many a common thief, made wealthy by ill-gotten gains, would be entitled to the name of gentleman. No, it’s something that goes deeper than ancestry or dress or wealth–something that is nobler and finer than any, or all, of these….by faithful constancy to the rules (of  good manners)  he and we gradually mold our characters until, in our outward dignity and charm, the world reads and understands our ideals.” Continue reading

Double Duty Discovery: Expository Writing Assignment Using Protocol Matters

Dear Ms. Deb… I’m happy you chose Protocol Matters for your students’ expository assignment. How thoughtful of you to keep me in the loop with your email. Thank you!  Other than keeping me on my toes, (which is a welcome exercise) you are certainly no trouble. Continue reading

Don’t worry, be Happy

happiness includes more than thinking right thoughts

In case you haven’t noticed–happiness includes more than thinking right thoughts. It involves wise actions that are taught and learned. Insightful training and the practices of good manners, including  etiquette’s many trustworthy Christian based rules, contribute greatly to happiness. Yes, they do! Continue reading

A Stitch in Time

The saying “Good manners are the stitches that hold the fabric of society together” also applies to the home front. Happy households are safe places where individual actions and words build up others, rather than tear down. Continue reading

Design a Table

8-19-2009-place_setting_colorful_bd08383_Hard to realize its planning time again for the new school year. I will soon post some details about one of my favorite assignments where we combine art and protocol lessons.  Its fun, creative, and introduces students to proper table settings as well as good design principles. Give me another week and I’ll share some past project photos (hopefully). You will find the table top ideas and assignment suggestions helpful for the teenagers in your protocol matters…it may rekindle the creative spark in your dining room, too. A theme table adds zest to any party. Continue reading

Retreat?

Thanks to Mrs. True for her recent Question and Comment–

Question: Does anyone do a protocol retreat? We watched Princes Diaries and it got me thinking we ladies could use similar coaching. It would be so fun! Better than a quilt retreat or a Harley convention! Continue reading