Men

What is a Gentleman?

10-27-2009-knight_chess_piece_j0177919We see Christianity’s timeless, powerful and wise influence upon the world of manners from one of my older etiquette book’s first chapter:
“What is a gentleman? The question is an old one. It cannot be ancestry, for often the son of the most noble and honored parentage is merely a coarse compound of clay and money…It cannot be dress–for surely Beau Brummell  (and today we could include famous well dressed entertainment and political personalities) was not what the world loves to call a gentleman, despite his stiffly starched cravats and brightly polished boots. It cannot be money, for then many a common thief, made wealthy by ill-gotten gains, would be entitled to the name of gentleman. No, it’s something that goes deeper than ancestry or dress or wealth–something that is nobler and finer than any, or all, of these….by faithful constancy to the rules (of  good manners)  he and we gradually mold our characters until, in our outward dignity and charm, the world reads and understands our ideals.” Continue reading

Best Man Duties

single_groomsman_tuxProtocol Matters received this two part Question: My husband is best man at my brother’s wedding. What are his duties before, during, and after the big day? Do I have any responsibilities as the wife of the best man?

Answer: Your questions are good ones, especially since brothers or cousins are often asked to be a best man, and how they handle this important role can impact the wedding (as well as future relations) for better or for worse. Kudos to you and your husband that you care enough to do some advance footwork. I think you’ll find the general protocol helpful…  the first part of your question is answered below and a post answering the second part follows in a few days. Continue reading